Online Relationship Therapy for Individuals
Shruti Surya Ph.D. Licensed psychologist, 15 years of clinical experience.
Connection feels harder than it should
Relationships are supposed to be a source of support, yet lately it feels like more work than comfort. You try to communicate, to be understood, to make things easier, but the same patterns keep showing up.
Nearly everyone struggles with relationship issues at some point, whether with a partner, family member, friend, or coworker. You are not alone in this. And there are research-backed relationship therapy approaches that can help you build the connection you’re looking for.
Does Any of This Sound Familiar?
- I keep repeating myself and nothing changes.
- Small disagreements turn into big fights before I know it.
- I feel unheard, or like I’m walking on eggshells.
- I’ve started pulling away so I don’t get hurt.
- I can’t bring up what’s bothering me without it becoming a fight.
- We feel more like roommates than partners.
Confusion; how did we get here?
It can feel confusing to understand how things got this way. Relationship struggles are often a response to unmet needs, old patterns, or communication styles that stopped working. Think of it like two people speaking different emotional languages, not because either person is wrong, but because no one taught you the translation.
You might be carrying patterns from your family growing up. Or you’re navigating a major life transition, a new baby, a move, a career change, that’s put stress on the relationship. Maybe trust was broken and you’re not sure how to rebuild it. Or you’ve simply grown in different directions and are trying to find your way back to each other.
There is hope
Whatever brought you here, relationship struggles are workable. I’ve spent 15 years providing relationship therapy to help people untangle the patterns that keep them stuck, and I’ll meet you wherever you’re ready to begin. Every relationship is different, and my approach adapts to yours.
Relationship Therapy for Individuals
This Is Individual Therapy, Not Couples Counseling
We work one-on-one, which means we can focus entirely on your side of the dynamic: what you bring to it, what you’re willing to change, and where your limits are. You don’t need your partner’s buy-in to start, and you don’t need them to be ready.
That matters, because a lot of people wait for the other person to agree to therapy and end up waiting indefinitely. Changing how you show up in a relationship changes the relationship, even when only one person is doing the work.
What We Might Work On
- Have a space to feel seen and understood in what you’re experiencing
- Identify the patterns driving conflict or disconnection
- Learn and use effective communication and emotional regulation strategies
- Rebuild trust and closeness where it’s been damaged
- Understand and rewrite the thought and behavior patterns that keep you stuck in the same cycles
- Setting boundaries without guilt, and holding them
- Untangling what’s yours to carry from what isn’t
- Making sense of patterns that started in your family growing up
- Deciding whether to stay, and what that would take
When Relationships and Health Collide
When Illness or Pain Reshapes a Relationship
Chronic pain and chronic illness change relationships, often in ways no one talks about openly. Plans get canceled. Roles shift, and a partner becomes a caregiver. You may feel like a burden, or resent being treated like one. Friends drift when you stop being able to show up.
This is a core part of my practice. If your relationship strain is tangled up with chronic pain or chronic illness, that’s familiar ground.
When Anxiety or Depression Is in the Middle of It
Anxiety can drive reassurance-seeking, conflict avoidance, or replaying conversations for days. Depression can pull you away from the people who want to help. Sometimes the relationship problem is the symptom, and sometimes it’s the cause. We can look at both.
About Shruti Surya Ph.D.
I’m Dr. Shruti Surya, a licensed psychologist with over 15 years of clinical experience. Texas license #38571.
Much of my work is with people who feel stuck in the same argument, the same silence, or the same distance, and can’t see a way out of it from the inside. Sometimes that’s a marriage. Sometimes it’s a parent, a sibling, or a friendship that’s quietly gone wrong.
I work integratively, which means I don’t run you through a protocol. We might look at the patterns driving the conflict, practice a different way of saying what you actually mean, or trace where a reaction learned decades ago is still running the show. We adjust based on what’s helping.
I see adults individually, by telehealth only. I don’t offer couples counseling, but working one-on-one during relationship therapy is often more useful than people expect: you don’t need the other person’s agreement to start, and changing how you show up changes the dynamic whether or not they’re doing the same work.
Insurance, Rates, and Where I Practice
I’m in-network in Texas with Aetna and Carelon Behavioral Health. BCBS, United, and Medicare are in progress.
Cash rates are $165 for a 60-minute session and $225 for 90 minutes. If you’re using out-of-network benefits, I provide a detailed superbill you can submit for reimbursement, many plans cover a meaningful share of the session cost.
Through PSYPACT, I’m authorized to practice in 43 states. Those sessions are cash-pay.
Sessions are available every day of the week, including evenings and weekends. For more information on the topic check out the insurance page.
Effectively get unstuck
Ready to get unstuck?
My priority is giving you real tools and a clearer perspective, within a relationship where you feel understood. If you’re ready to start relationship therapy, book a free 20-minute consultation. It’s a short conversation about what’s going on, with no cost and no obligation.
Frequently Asked Questions About Relationship Therapy
No, I just do individual therapy for relationship issues.
Yes. Individual therapy focuses on your part of the pattern, what you can influence, and what you want. That work changes the dynamic whether or not the other person participates.
That’s a legitimate thing to bring in. My job isn’t to push you toward a decision, it’s to help you see the situation clearly enough to make one you can live with.
No. Family relationships, friendships, and difficult dynamics at work come up often.
Research finds teletherapy comparable to in-person care for most concerns. Many people also find it easier to talk honestly about their relationships from their own space.
In Texas, I’m in-network with Aetna and Carelon Behavioral Health. See Insurance & Rates for current information.